Not that I would be an important or famous person, but it happens from time to time that I receive e-mails or messages on Facebook from strangers who ask me to tell them about living in London, studying abroad or more details on different stories I’ve blogged about.
I don’t mind getting all these messages, but I would never dare to bother anyone (be him/her a person I admire or even a friend) without knowing exactly what I want to find out and without having a (at least mental) list of questions. For example: ‘How’s the weather in London? What’s worth visiting? Where can I find the best cupcakes or How much does it cost to go to the opera?’.
It is not a matter of being arrogant or anything like that, but let’s face it, we don’t even have time to write pages telling our parents or close friends how life is in London, let alone complete strangers.
The last message of this kind was from a person I have never met, asking me to ‘recount and advice’ her about living in London. She’s studying journalism and communication.
January 15th, 2011 at 8:30 pm
“It is not a matter of being arrogant or anything like that”…
Oh, yes, my dear. In your case I am sorry to say it, but it is a matter of being arrogant. I am also soryy about my poor judgement when I thought that even if young, you are a sensitive and kind person, willing to communicate. It is not the case. You only post on this blog because you like to share your immage and your presumed talent. For this purpose, of advertising, web sites are the propper instrument; blogs are for people who want to give and receive impressions, thoughts, feelings. Blogs are ment for dialog, and even if you don’t have the time to answer every question arriving from a person who felt close enough to you to”dare” to ask you for some information, you don’t have to be rude. It is the first time in my life I feel so dissapointed by a person who seemed so nice…
You are half my age, you will see many things in your life, and maybe some day you will understand that such an attitude won’t help you at all. In no way.
You don’t have to answer me. Just give it a thought.
P.S. Sorry if my english is not perfect, as it is not my mothertongue, I would feel more confortable to write in romanian, but as far as your post was in english, I tried to do my best…
January 15th, 2011 at 8:53 pm
Draga Cristiana,
Daca ai fi citit cu atentie postul ai fi inteles ca nu faptul ca cineva m-a intrebat ceva m-a deranjat ci felul in care oamenii refuza sa comunice intr-un mod eficient. Eu nu as trimite nimanui un mail in care sa spun: “Povesteste-mi cum e viata la Londra.” As pune intrebari specifice pt a afla ceea ce ma intereseaza: “Cum e vremea la Londra? Cat costa sa mergi la teatru? Ce merita vizitat?” si asa mai departe.
Iar daca tu ai dublul varstei mele, in acest caz cred ca ar trebui sa fii mai toleranta si ingaduitoare si sa nu judeci cu atata asprime afirmand ca postez pe acest blog doar pentru a-mi pomova “imaginea si presupusul talent”. In general e bine sa nu ai asteptari de la oameni, ci sa-i iei asa cum sunt, cu partile bune ci cele rele. In felul asta nu o sa mai spui ca cineva te-a dezamagit
Numai bine.
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