I have always believed that it is much easier to be bad than to be good. At the same time, the notions of ’good’ and ‘bad’ are quite vague and it isn’t fair at all to divide people according to them. But no matter how little importance these ideas or concepts have in our lives, it is always so beautiful to watch people doing good.
I was at one of my dearest friend’s house today, enjoying a cup of tea and catching up after a long time of not seeing each other because we live 2000 miles away apart. At some point I was just watching her caressing and playing with her cats. There was so much love and tenderness in the way she touched them and I wished she could see herself the way I did: as a wonderful woman, walking barefoot around the flat, running after the cats in a nightie, wearing no make up and shining like a beautiful pearl. And then she sung for me. With a voice I could never imagine would come out of such a tiny body. It doesn’t really matter if it’s the love for a cat, a dog, for music or for building a business. It’s just that glimpse you get at the good in someone who for a second actually becomes love. And sometimes it takes a while to discover it and you have to stick to a person in order to see their vulnerability or their emotions.
Most of the time we live in fear of letting go because no one likes to show their weaknesses and to seem anything but content and fulfilled in front of other people. I guess that’s probably because we don’t get to know them so well. We only meet with others at a very superficial level where there’s just a limited amount of space and therefore we pick certain parts of ourselves to represent us. And this gets a little more tricky when you somehow manage to sense the good in a person without actually seeing it and you believe in them with all your heart. It happened to me once and when I finally got that chance to see it, there wasn’t any satisfaction or sentiment of relief involved. There was pure joy for being lucky enough to share such an intimate and special moment.
People are and they can do good. We just don’t find the time anymore. We’re maybe too preoccupied with being good or being the best at various things we do without realizing that this is not the same. I find it quite funny at times when I watch women(myself included) working out for hours and hours, spending hundreds of thousands of dollars on beauty products or procedures or depriving themselves of food when all these could be reduced to a minimum if they paid more attention to loving their lives. With love comes kindness and that inner beauty that makes some women shine. And although my friend has amazing dresses and shoes, bags and make-up, perfect nails and luscious locks, I have never seen her looking better and being more attractive than she was today with crumbs on her lip, when she wasn’t putting any effort into looking beautiful.
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