Charles Dickens once famously wrote “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times.” And as far as time, or better said, timing goes, this statement couldn’t be more true. How many times do we say to ourselves that timing is everything? How many times do we ask ourselves what if we’ve been to a certain place at the right moment, what if we have met a certain person earlier or later? Perfect timing doesn’t happen too often. But what is this perfect timing anyway? Because to me it’s seems there’s no such thing. Time does indeed control our lives but we sometimes are afraid of at least trying to take control. It’s probably when we don’t like what is happening to us that we begin to seek for hidden reasons and explanations for something that we can’t quite understand. More often than not, things just are what they seem. They just happen and there’s no secret meaning to be later discovered.

If I look back, I can find many things that I’ve thrown away or missed just because I put the “bad timing” label on them. As my best friend says, in business timing is everything but there’s more to life than business. Maybe I would have had a father now if he hadn’t decided that 21 years ago wasn’t the right time for him to have a child. But on the other hand, I am quite happy that my mother didn’t think that at 23 was the wrong time to have one. After all, most of one’s life is just the sum of the decisions they’ve made. And the power of choice may overcome that of time because the fight against the latter is just lost from the very beginning. To seize the day might seem the best option in any circumstance and since both reason and feelings have failed me before, I tend to have less regrets when choosing to follow my intuition. Saying what I think, doing what I feel or what I want aren’t always easy choices to make but I know that this is what I owe to myself.

There is this funny saying “when life throws you lemons, make lemonade.” I say when life or people offer you something, a gift, an opportunity or just a smile, take it. When you meet someone and find that you have a wonderful connection or chemistry, jump. Leaving doubt, suspicion and fear behind is probably the lesson I try to learn everyday but even if I don’t make it all the time, I will not give up on this. And I will not do it for those rare moments when I realize that the only thing standing between me and something wonderful is my little stupid fear. Fear which is only built on past experiences or memories and on that futile thought that no matter what I choose, there’s always going to be another option. But for now, I really try to only choose the best of times and squeeze the last drop of juice from the lemons that I’ve got.

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